Man! I feel like a Woman- Shania Twain
“Sugar and spice and everything nice. That’s what little girls are made of.” Right? Excuse me while I repeatedly hit my head on the desk. I’m sorry but they cannot be more wrong. I mean, I have mad respect for the girls who know their designer trivia, watch hair and makeup tutorials, are all caught up on Gossip Girl, have hundreds of followers on pinterest, memorize every line and can cry whilst watching The Notebook, instagram their nails/food/coffee/outfit of the day/ selfies/new things they bought. Alright maybe not mad respect for them. But I acknowledge the effort that goes into being that kind of girl. I just would not be caught dead as one.
I’m that girl who’d rather stay home and watch a basketball game than go shopping. The girl who has one wallet and like 2 bags (different sizes) and don’t see the point in having more. I saw tweets from The Notebook about the whole “If you’re a bird, I’m a bird” junk and when I actually watched the movie did not find it cute whatsoever. I will shop anywhere or buy anything that I like or is a good price; brand names do not matter. My tweets are usually sarcastic or witty statements instead of subtweets or announcements about a “girls night with my loves!<3″. I do not enjoy cooking or baking, but I do it when/ because I have to (I won’t get married otherwise, according to my parents). I refuse to get a pinterest or instagram because it’s filled with THOSE kind of girls. I never put more than one color of eye shadow on and no nothing about contour or whatever. And, I do not drink coffee let alone starbucks. I do not enjoy hopeless romantics or sappiness.
But I’ll tell you this. Diamond rings make me happy. I cannot wait to be a mother. Chocolate is life (clearly I mean look at my background). I like growing out my hair. I blush when boybands compliment me in a song. I have seen Titanic 19872351 times (but it’s the only “chick flick” I enjoy particularly because I can empathize with miss Rose DeWitt Bukater). I thoroughly enjoy bubble baths with country music. I’m an English major. I’m a dreamer. I fantasize about Mr. Perfect even if mine is a guy who will debate politics with me and build a tree house for our children. So am I less of a woman?
To be honest, the reason I’m writing this is because I’m confused. And your feedback would be wonderful. So there’s this girl. Total opposite of me. She’s rich (old money), in a sorority, not too intellectual (she’s dumb. Like she spells embarrassing wrong), scared of rain (like how is that possible. Rain is my favorite part of life), spends her entire life/ time online shopping (designer only I presume), is addicted to shows such as Gossip Girl, Glee, and One Tree Hill (and quotes them in her tweets), is always tweeting taylor swift lyrics, knows nothing about sports or politics (except that Romney should’ve won because her daddy said so), bakes (gluten free of course to lose weight), and pins like crazy on pinterest. I’m guessing you get the point. Total opposite of me. She even tweeted and I quote “While everyone is worrying about the election I’ve decided to relieve my own stress by online shopping! #ShoppingSolvesEverything” Just to put things into perspective, I had watched every debate, read several articles, tweeted often criticizing Romney, and had ardently waited for that day to vote in order to let my voice be heard.
Now here is my dilemma. Does that make her more attractive? I always thought it was to my advantage to be “one of the guys” to be able to play 2k with and watch dude movies with, to be the girl who will not drag you shopping or obsess over some thousand dollar heels that you’d have to pay for. To wear minimal makeup in order to appear “real”. I understand that biologically, men are attracted to girls with higher level of estrogen because their instinct seek someone who can carry their children. But is it really more appealing to be like her? I don’t understand.
Btw I don’t find Zac Efron, Ryan Gosling, Justin Timberlake, Channing Tatum, Luke Bryan, Hunter Hayes, or Zain Malik attractive so sue me.
Sam Palladio on the other hand…. he could get it.
Title explained: I wanted to capture the ambiguity involved in being a woman. We have the social expectation of being petite and feminine but in reality most women are free-willed and incredibly emotionally strong. Even we do go crazy from time to time. The views on women are so different from the power attributed to us in recent times. And you can sense the conflict in individuals, struggling to remain feminine whilst creating their identity.
Loved this post. Well thought out and creative, while being true to yourself. Don’t let anyone else bring you down. The right guy will find that you are the right person!
That’s really sweet, thank you! It’s so enthralling for me when strangers like my writing and care about what I have to say. I’m still getting used to blogging, but I really appreciate your feedback
I used to be ‘one of the guys’ when I was younger wore baggy pants and sweatshirts, didn’t care about brands, wore tennis shoes and never even thought about heels, as I got older I started changing my views about fashion, make up and other feminine things.
I am now somewhere in the middle between ‘One of the guys’ and ‘girly girl’ and I’m comfortable with it.
I’ve found out that it doesn’t make a difference. I met my fiance when I was ‘one of the guys’ that was 9 years ago, I’ve changed dramatically when it comes to material goods and guys (my guy) still find me attractive. One day you will find your political tree house builder and be happy no matter how you tweet.
So I’ve kinda been creeping on your blog, and to be honest, you’re more similar to me than anyone I know! Well your comment is really reassuring, thanks so much. That last bit really made me smile
I will start by informing you of my personal impression of you with information collected from your blog thus far. In my humble opinion, you are perfectly imperfect…you are the perfect you.
Unlike a vast majority of young woman your age, you have a thirst for information. Even more impressive, you know information will not satisfy until all the information you take in fills your tummy with understanding on the topic that interests you. Kudos for this.
Before I give my opinion on the subject of this post, I will like to tell you a little about me. I am old. My age is double yours. While I have been to college (history major) and I’m published author, your intellectual style and standards kinda scares me.
Please don’t think me dumb if I happen to misspell a word or two or make a gramatical error here and there in reply. You see, I’m perfectly imperfect as well.
With age comes wisdom, albeit in different amounts depending on the individual. That being said, with time I have come to realize a Woman should never pretend to be a person who they believe the Man they desire to have wants. You have to be true to you….and have faith that a Man, who is perfectly imperfect himself, will find the true you to be exactly what he wanted. Just because, ditsy girls seem to be getting all the attention right now. Does not mean the girly girls are more attractive than you. Just means, the Men of your age are discovering who they are, just like you, and the early stages of the process they accept, without question, the wrong, long standing notion that being a strong man means the woman they are with should be intellectally and physically weak. With time, men who are of higher intellect find the wrongness of this notion by continually feeling his spirit saddened when with fluff. After the creme de la creme rise to the top….they will SEEK you out because the substance of character you, at such a young age, already developed is exponentially more attractive then the girl you described as your opposite.
Good grief! I went on too long. I’m sorry for this. Hope it helps.
2nd paragraph 1st line, *women. 3rd paragraph 4th line, *scare
Those are about the only errors I picked up haha. First and foremost, I’m flattered that a published author enjoys my work. That means a lot, and really encourages me to pursue my hobby of writing. So thank you! I think it’s incredible the way we learn so much about others by reading their thoughts. After all, that’s how we start to feel close to characters in novels, right? Get inside their head. It’s cool to be able to do that with real people on here! And I find it interesting to see others’ perceptions of me.
As for the latter part of your comment, well thank you for that too! It makes sense and I try to convince myself that’s the way it works but it’s a bit hard at this age to grasp that. In case you were wondering, the girl I was talking about is indeed a real person whom someone chose to be with after I was no longer an option (long story, I’ll save that post for a rainy day), so the entire situation just left me confused.
By the way, never apologize for a long comment! It totally made my day
I am so happy you were not peeved by the manifestation of my fear of not making my intended point clear. I must warn you, this manifestation is seen often. I look forward to reading more of your offerings in order to get to know you better. Before I go, I apologize in advance for the spelling and gramatical errors I will make.